Collapse systemd unit to single template; add make deploy/upgrade
Make `make` the single entry point for both dev (install/test/ci) and deployment (deploy/upgrade/service-*). Extract the systemd unit into one template shipped inside the wheel as a package resource, consumed by both `make deploy` and `solstone-tmux install-service`. Make install-service idempotent via byte-exact unit comparison, with `--force` as the explicit rewrite escape hatch. Collapse INSTALL.md to three numbered steps plus an updating section.
No observer behavior changes; packaging and docs only.
Co-Authored-By: OpenAI Codex <codex@openai.com>