memcg: consolidate private id refcount get/put helpers

We currently have two different sets of helpers for getting or putting the
private IDs' refcount for order 0 and large folios. This is redundant.
Just use one and always acquire the refcount of the swapout folio size
unless it's zero, and put the refcount using the folio size if the charge
failed, since the folio size can't change. Then there is no need to
update the refcount for tail pages.

Same for freeing, then only one pair of get/put helper is needed now.

The performance might be slightly better, too: both "inc unless zero" and
"add unless zero" use the same cmpxchg implementation. For large folios,
we saved an atomic operation. And for both order 0 and large folios, we
saved a branch.

Link: https://lkml.kernel.org/r/20260213-memcg-privid-v1-1-d8cb7afcf831@tencent.com
Signed-off-by: Kairui Song <kasong@tencent.com>
Acked-by: Johannes Weiner <hannes@cmpxchg.org>
Reviewed-by: Chen Ridong <chenridong@huaweicloud.com>
Acked-by: Shakeel Butt <shakeel.butt@gmail.com>
Cc: Michal Hocko <mhocko@kernel.org>
Cc: Muchun Song <muchun.song@linux.dev>
Cc: Roman Gushchin <roman.gushchin@linux.dev>
Signed-off-by: Andrew Morton <akpm@linux-foundation.org>