Bluetooth: l2cap: defer conn param update to avoid conn->lock/hdev->lock inversion

When a BLE peripheral sends an L2CAP Connection Parameter Update Request
the processing path is:

process_pending_rx() [takes conn->lock]
l2cap_le_sig_channel()
l2cap_conn_param_update_req()
hci_le_conn_update() [takes hdev->lock]

Meanwhile other code paths take the locks in the opposite order:

l2cap_chan_connect() [takes hdev->lock]
...
mutex_lock(&conn->lock)

l2cap_conn_ready() [hdev->lock via hci_cb_list_lock]
...
mutex_lock(&conn->lock)

This is a classic AB/BA deadlock which lockdep reports as a circular
locking dependency when connecting a BLE MIDI keyboard (Carry-On FC-49).

Fix this by making hci_le_conn_update() defer the HCI command through
hci_cmd_sync_queue() so it no longer needs to take hdev->lock in the
caller context. The sync callback uses __hci_cmd_sync_status_sk() to
wait for the HCI_EV_LE_CONN_UPDATE_COMPLETE event, then updates the
stored connection parameters (hci_conn_params) and notifies userspace
(mgmt_new_conn_param) only after the controller has confirmed the update.

A reference on hci_conn is held via hci_conn_get()/hci_conn_put() for
the lifetime of the queued work to prevent use-after-free, and
hci_conn_valid() is checked before proceeding in case the connection was
removed while the work was pending. The hci_dev_lock is held across
hci_conn_valid() and all conn field accesses to prevent a concurrent
disconnect from invalidating the connection mid-use.

Fixes: f044eb0524a0 ("Bluetooth: Store latency and supervision timeout in connection params")
Signed-off-by: Mikhail Gavrilov <mikhail.v.gavrilov@gmail.com>
Reviewed-by: Paul Menzel <pmenzel@molgen.mpg.de>
Signed-off-by: Luiz Augusto von Dentz <luiz.von.dentz@intel.com>