memcg: introduce non-blocking limit setting option

Setting the max and high limits can trigger synchronous reclaim and/or
oom-kill if the usage is higher than the given limit. This behavior is
fine for newly created cgroups but it can cause issues for the node
controller while setting limits for existing cgroups.

In our production multi-tenant and overcommitted environment, we are
seeing priority inversion when the node controller dynamically adjusts the
limits of running jobs of different priorities. Based on the system
situation, the node controller may reduce the limits of lower priority
jobs and increase the limits of higher priority jobs. However we are
seeing node controller getting stuck for long period of time while
reclaiming from lower priority jobs while setting their limits and also
spends a lot of its own CPU.

One of the workaround we are trying is to fork a new process which sets
the limit of the lower priority job along with setting an alarm to get
itself killed if it get stuck in the reclaim for lower priority job.
However we are finding it very unreliable and costly. Either we need a
good enough time buffer for the alarm to be delivered after setting limit
and potentialy spend a lot of CPU in the reclaim or be unreliable in
setting the limit for much shorter but cheaper (less reclaim) alarms.

Let's introduce new limit setting option which does not trigger reclaim
and/or oom-kill and let the processes in the target cgroup to trigger
reclaim and/or throttling and/or oom-kill in their next charge request.
This will make the node controller on multi-tenant overcommitted
environment much more reliable.

Explanation from Johannes on side-effects of O_NONBLOCK limit change:
It's usually the allocating tasks inside the group bearing the cost of
limit enforcement and reclaim. This allows a (privileged) updater from
outside the group to keep that cost in there - instead of having to
help, from a context that doesn't necessarily make sense.

I suppose the tradeoff with that - and the reason why this was doing
sync reclaim in the first place - is that, if the group is idle and
not trying to allocate more, it can take indefinitely for the new
limit to actually be met.

It should be okay in most scenarios in practice. As the capacity is
reallocated from group A to B, B will exert pressure on A once it
tries to claim it and thereby shrink it down. If A is idle, that
shouldn't be hard. If A is running, it's likely to fault/allocate
soon-ish and then join the effort.

It does leave a (malicious) corner case where A is just busy-hitting
its memory to interfere with the clawback. This is comparable to
reclaiming memory.low overage from the outside, though, which is an
acceptable risk. Users of O_NONBLOCK just need to be aware.

Link: https://lkml.kernel.org/r/20250419183545.1982187-1-shakeel.butt@linux.dev
Signed-off-by: Shakeel Butt <shakeel.butt@linux.dev>
Acked-by: Roman Gushchin <roman.gushchin@linux.dev>
Acked-by: Johannes Weiner <hannes@cmpxchg.org>
Acked-by: Michal Hocko <mhocko@suse.com>
Cc: Greg Thelen <gthelen@google.com>
Cc: Michal Koutný <mkoutny@suse.com>
Cc: Muchun Song <muchun.song@linux.dev>
Cc: Tejun Heo <tj@kernel.org>
Cc: Christian Brauner <brauner@kernel.org>
Cc: Yosry Ahmed <yosry.ahmed@linux.dev>
Signed-off-by: Andrew Morton <akpm@linux-foundation.org>