docs: add TAP memory tuning, status check, and catch-up monitoring
- document memory/parallelism settings to prevent OOM
- add `just check` quick status recipe
- explain how to monitor catch-up progress after downtime
- add OOM and catch-up issues to troubleshooting table
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