add memory attribution metrics + fix mallinfo accuracy
new prometheus gauges for internal data structure capacities:
- validator_cache_map_cap, did_cache_map_cap, queued_set_map_cap
- evtbuf_cap, outbuf_cap, workers_count
switch mallinfo() to mallinfo2() for accurate multi-arena reporting
(size_t fields, all thread arenas instead of just main arena).
pure observability — zero behavioral change.
Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.6 <noreply@anthropic.com>