update README, CLAUDE.md, Dockerfile for current state
- README: document Evented backend, cross-Io architecture, DbRequestQueue,
link to devlog 008, fix zat dep link, note ReleaseFast requirement
- CLAUDE.md: Evented not Threaded, ReleaseFast not ReleaseSafe
- Dockerfile: fix build flag to ReleaseFast (comments said ReleaseFast
but flag was still ReleaseSafe)
Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.6 (1M context) <noreply@anthropic.com>