add broadcast queue push-lock spin counter
separates push-lock contention from queue-full contention so operator
can distinguish: producers fighting for the CAS lock vs producers
blocked on a full ring buffer.
new metric: relay_broadcast_queue_push_lock_spins_total
clarified: relay_broadcast_queue_full_total HELP text (ring capacity)
Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.6 <noreply@anthropic.com>