upgrade to cpx41, harden backfill and dashboard
- resize server cpx31 → cpx41 (32GB RAM) to handle full-network relay
- set GOMEMLIMIT=6GiB on relay, lower memory limit to 8Gi
- bump collectiondir memory limit to 2Gi for backfill headroom
- fix jetstream subscribers panel showing duplicate series (max())
- add collectiondir memory panel to dashboard
- add batch timeout + skip/resume to backfill script
- add retry on transient connection errors in backfill polling
- fix relay binary path in justfile bootstrap/sync-hosts recipes
- update docs for cpx41 specs and bsky shard rate limit guidance
Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.6 <noreply@anthropic.com>