docs: reflect ReleaseSafe in production, add CLAUDE.md
ReleaseSafe deployed successfully — ~1.1 GiB RSS at 2,255 hosts
(vs ~2.7 GiB debug). update all docs to reflect current state:
- README: remove "debug" default, remove "not in prod" caveat
- deployment.md: ReleaseSafe is production default, add frame pool
to memory tuning section, update resource usage
- design.md: 8 MiB stacks, updated RSS numbers, per-thread breakdown
- incident doc: current state shows successful ReleaseSafe deploy
- CLAUDE.md: operational context for AI-assisted development
Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.6 <noreply@anthropic.com>